Feeling Stuck?

Why "Feeling Stuck" Happens and How to Heal it

Sometimes I feel completely stuck. I feel like nothing is moving in my life. And then I lose a lot of my enthusiasm and my projects and dreams all suddenly seem kind of pointless.

Some beliefs do not serve us

It seems like when ever this happens it is always for the same reason : somewhere in the back of my mind there is a belief that I am in some way inadequate. I have realized that this kind of a belief can affect me very strongly and in a variety different ways, none of which are pleasant or helpful.

For example, when I feel like I am somehow imperfect then I will find it very hard to be spontaneous with people. Probably because I am judging other peoples reactions to my own behavior and therefore I feel like I am being judged for every little move I make. Also I will often refrain for asking for help, advice etc. because it feels like I don't deserve it. On the whole it is not a situation I like to be in. The good news is that the way out is fairly easy.

I have noticed that, when I am able to locate the thing that I am judging myself for, when I realize which negative belief about myself I am carrying around, then I usually start feeling great almost straight away.

We can chose what to believe !!!

This is because I know that I get to choose what I believe in.

Therefore when I can locate a belief that is not serving me, I immediately change it. To do this I enter the present moment and experience gratitude for what is. I realize that here and now everything (that includes me) is perfect (i.e. it is perfectly the way it is).

When I do this, I begin to enjoy whatever I happen to be doing at that moment, even if it is just doing the washing up or sitting on the train or bus.

Then I picture what I want to believe in in my mind while feeling peaceful in my body. I hold a crystal clear vision of what I want to believe about my self.

This may sound strange to you, it may sound like pretending to believe something, but it is not. It is simply affirming that things are a certain way to "re-program" your own subconscious.

Having noticed this, I now know what to do when I feel stuck.

Make positive and useful beliefs your priotity

If I feel like a particular project is not going anywhere and I begin to experience frustration then I stop trying to push it forwards.

I step back and take a look inside myself at what thoughts I am thinking and what feelings I am feeling. I keep my eyes open for implied beliefs of inadequacy on my part.

Then I consciously reshape my thought and behavior patterns so that they reflect an altogether positive set of beliefs. The moment I choose to do this everything starts to move for me again.

Stay alert and make choices consciously

When everything is going well it is so easy to take it for granted and to not pay sufficient attention to the choices we make.

I mean subtle choices about what thoughts to focus on and which ways we choose to interpret our perceptions. And then often we end up feeling stuck. Which in the end is no big deal, because the way out is easy !